Who Do You Want to Be?
Who here doesn’t want an incredible love life?
In a sense, many of us are here for exactly this reason.
We’re here because we want to find something enchanting… something hot and steamy… something wild… something dependable… something spontaneous… something stable… something romantic… something real.
Men and women both desire to be swept off their feet.
We desire to conquer… and to be conquered…
…in different ways.
We want someone to hold our hearts gently and safely.
We crave intimate companionship.
Our many needs demand connection of a sort that can often only be found in a romantic partner.
Getting there is not simple…
…but the first step is zeroing in on what’s most important to you.
In some ways,
we all want
this.
Most of us have a
long laundry list
of qualities
we want
in a partner…
…but perhaps we should take a step back and distill that list down to only 4-8 points total.
Think of the few things that really matter most to you.
Consider how you can simplify them into a few short statements.
Many of the smaller things we want are covered under bigger, broader statements, such as:
I want someone who shares my values.
I could be biased, but I think this is a good one for two reasons:
It sums up a great quantity of qualities.
It reminds you that you also need to be the type of person you want to attract.
If you want someone with empathy, you have to value and embody empathy.
In my own list, I also included that having a secure attachment style is important to me.
This is something that isn’t often talked about, but encompasses a lot of smaller behaviors that can make a big difference in the long run and in day-to-day life.
Take some time to think about the things that matter to you and write them down in your leadership notebook.
What does your
happy
relationship
look like?
Take time to envision what you want…
…but be careful not to imagine it in too much detail…
…because, when we get too detailed about things that involve other people…
…we lose reality.
When it comes to relationships, we must always remember to make space for the other person.
Your homework
today is
simple.
Get out your leadership notebook, for those of you who already have yours, and answer the question:
“What do I want my love life to be like?”
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It will create a catalyst for change in your life.
Click the button below to complete today’s homework in the community discussion, as well.
Benefits of doing it in both places:
You’ll be interacting with the community, seeing that you’re not alone.
You’ll get support from the community.
You’ll have a chance to connect with other leaders in the community.
Writing it out twice will reinforce what you want to your subconscious mind.
Participate
in today’s
discussion.
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